We’re proud to introduce our second guest blogger, Allison B (who received a grant from The SAMFund in 2009 to cover four months of health insurance premiums), who is sharing her experience with complementary health care. Please note: this is one person’s story of navigating the world of complementary care in order to improve her overall well-being. The SAMFund would like to remind everyone to talk with their doctor before pursuing any forms of alternative treatment.
I wanted something more to treat my breast cancer. Don’t get me wrong, my doctors and nurses were awesome. They were very attentive and aware of my 26-year-old-ness. They knew I needed a little extra comfort and care, and for the most part, they gave it to me. Even the receptionists seemed to take a couple of extra minutes to chat with me. I knew I was in good hands, yet I also felt like something was missing.
One day, not long after my diagnosis, I asked my oncologist if there was anything more I could be doing to ‘fight’ my cancer. Specifically, I asked him about my diet. “I mostly eat healthy,” I said, “But, are there certain foods I should try to include or to avoid?” He turned and looked me square on. “Alli,” he replied, “This,” he waived his hand around the room where I sat connected to a drip machine, receiving my chemotherapy, “is your free ticket to hamburgers and french fries!”
My cheeks got hot, my eyes welled up with tears; the frustration was ready to boil over, but I chose not to let it out. Didn’t he understand that I wanted to improve my overall health? Didn’t he see that I needed to feel like there was something more that I could do? The idea of eating garbage during a health crisis just didn’t resonate with me. But, instead of arguing my point, I simply said “Thanks.” I nodded of my head, forced a slight smile, and directed my eyes back down to the book on my lap as I reached to put the headphones of my iPod back into my ears. I didn’t need to say it, but I thought: “We’re done here.”
So, I chose to figure it out on my own. Over the next several months I researched and read everything cancer and health-related that I could get my hands on. I enrolled in my own personal crash course covering any and every kind of complementary treatment for cancer: nutrition, exercise, energy work, mind work, you name it. If it might help me heal alongside my conventional medical treatment, I wanted to know about it. And, wow, it was overwhelming. I will spare you the details of the many wrong turns I took - turns that were fueled by passion, by frustration, and most often by fear. Instead, I will share with you the path that I eventually came to find: my path.
See, what I now understand, is that holistic healing is all about YOU. There is not one magic cure, pill, practice, book, diet, or retreat that is going to guarantee your health and longevity. Instead, there is a common thread of belief that your personal transformations and gains can help you to heal. Yeah, I know this sounds like a bunch of motivational B.S. Really, though, the truth is that complementary health care can work. However, the secret is not in the specific kind of care you seek. The secret of complementary/holistic/alternative health care is that it forces you to take care of YOU. It is your own self-initiative on your cancer journey that can empower you and bring you the boost of inspiration you need to get your body-mind-spirit healing.
Oh, and before I go on, let me make clear that my use of the word “healing” is NOT synonymous with the word “cure.” I am, of course, not going to tell you that you can cure your cancer. But what you can do is embark on a journey to heal your life. I like to use the term “complementary” in regards to self-initiated healing. It is not an alternative to your medical care; it is a complement to it. I also like the word “holistic,” in that it directly refers to the mind-body-spirit connection, but something tells me that the majority of people find it to sound a bit hokey. So, complementary it is.
Now, in terms of complementary care, this is what I suggest: Explore what is available to you, utilize resources that will not interfere with your medical treatment, do what feels right for you, and most importantly, allow yourself time everyday to heal. That’s right, take a moment everyday to focus only on yourself, not on what you need to do, or how you are going to do it, or who is going to help you get there. Just stop, take a breath, and listen to your own heart. Try to hear the voice within. Trust me, it’s there. You are the only one who has the answers.
This is a hard thing to do, no doubt. And, believe me, I am still struggling with it. But, I think what helps us get there – to that place where we can hear our own inner voice – is these practices of complementary care. Yoga, journaling, meditation, music or art therapy, energy work, nutritional support – what all these things have in common is that the practice of implementing them into our daily lives allows us a moment in time to listen within, live with deliberation, and, “aahhhh,” release some built-up emotional baggage. Energetically, figuratively or literally, complementary care allows you to tap into your holistic self and empower your own healing journey.
For more information on complementary healing options, check out the National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine at http://nccam.nih.gov/health/whatiscam/.